Emotionally Detaching "In 1999, I appeared as an expert on "Oprah" to discuss "The Disease to Please." Oprah said this "disease" - the people-pleasing syndrome - is an issue very important and personal to her. It is a problem that she has struggled long and hard to overcome. And, she believes as I do, that there are epidemic numbers of women - and men, too - plagued by the self-imposed pressure to please others at the expense of their own health and happiness." Our tribute to the late Harriet B. Braiker, Ph.D. Author The Disease to Please, Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome Stock Phrases The unhealthy people in your life often try to catch you off guard, or will try to ensnare you in a hopeless problem. The response to both tactics is to memorize some stock phrases. Some examples: "Hm. Interesting." "Wow, that's too bad." Or my favorite: "Huh. What are you going to do about that?" The last one is very effective, since these people want you to fix their problems. This response turns the tables on them. http://incestabuse.about.com/cs/mentalhealth/a/emotiondetach.htm  TIPS FOR RIGHT NOW !! - First-Aid to help in an addictive "I want to call my abuser' crisis. Tactics to use to get you through this. Grounding Techniques http://www.ibiblio.org/rcip/copingskills.html#ground Mindfullness - Successful Stress Management http://www.intouchmag.com/Mindfulness.html Survivor Recovery Tips: Things to do In a Crisis http://www.hopeforhealing.org/tips.html Beathing Techniques for Stress Times http://breathmastery.com/bet.htm FlashCards to help you get through an addictive situation (mentions alcohol, but excellent for us) helps focus on the amygdala the brain's addictive centre - Bullets for my Beast http://www.rational.org/html_bullets/Bullet1.html Detaching http://www.coping.org/control/detach.htm Anger Workout http://www.coping.org/anger/workout.htm#steps Meditation Techniques http://www.meditationcenter.com/center/ Stop Destructive Arguing Before Bad Things Happen - The Time Out Commitment http://www.realhope.com/free_tips.php Detach Yourself to Protect Yourself From Abuse by Peter Griffiths http://www.lib.sk.ca/booksinfo/DailyHerald/DH1991/dh910928.html Managing your emotional responses http://www.colorado.edu/conflict/peace/treatment/angermgt.htm The Victim's Anger http://www.drirene.com/the.htm Emotional Detachment - Mentions Borderline Personality Disorder http://www.bpd411.org/emotionaldetachmentintro.html http://www.bpd411.org/detach.html Detachment http://www.coping.org/control/detach.htm Breaking Free of Emotional Bondage http://www.mtoomey.com/breakingfree.html Lessons about Emotional Detachment http://incestabuse.about.com/library/weekly/aa112502b.htm Lessons about Emotional Detachment, Part 1 The Incredible Shrinking relatives http://incestabuse.about.com/cs/mentalhealth/a/emotiondetach.htm Emotional Detachment http://www.heartrelationships.com/ARTICLES/Attachment/attachmentApril19.htm Emotional Detaching (from an abusive relationship)- The Tears and Healing sites: http://tearsandhealing.com/ http://tearsandhealing.com/metaphysics-of-detaching.htm http://tearsandhealing.com/detaching-and-relationship-dimensions.htm http://tearsandhealing.com/selective-detaching.htm Personal Responsibility http://www.coping.org/growth/accept.htm The Pathology of Love by Dr. Sam Vaknin http://samvak.tripod.com/lovepathology.html Characteristics of Addictive Relationships http://www.ta-tutor.com/webpdf/ram186.pdf> Developing Self-Control http://www.coping.org/control/selfcont.htm Are You Attracted to "Bad Boys"? http://www.romanceopedia.com/O-WomenBadBoys.html http://www.theoryofsex.com/commentary/badboys.html Inverted Narcissist, Facilitating Narcissism, Malignant Optimism of the Abused, Spouse/Partner of the Narcissist http://samvak.tripod.com/faq66.html http://samvak.tripod.com/journal62.html http://samvak.tripod.com/faq6.html http://samvak.tripod.com/journal27.html "The Allure Of The Bad Object Eleanore M. Armstrong-Perlman http://www.rhondafindling.com/articles/theallureofthebadobject.htm Don’t Call that Man!! http://www.rhondafindling.com/BookExcerpt.htm    Assembled By Angelheart~Tiles By Skppb~Free