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"When one door closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened."
Helen Keller "It was the best of times; it was the worst of times."
Charles Dickens ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ EMERGENCY TACTICS: We recommend for your safety you do NOT tip your hand to your abuser you are leaving. Get out while s/he is away. There's plenty of help available. Find it and use it. Letting Go
http://www.loveadvice.com/ARTICLES/LETGO.HTM Safety Planning
http://www.bpd411.org/safeplan.html Leaving an Abusive Relationship
http://abuse101.com/leaving.html About Leaving - Mentions Borderline, an excellent resource about leaving Guideline to Leaving a Partner with Borderline Personality Disorder
http://www.ybrt.org/leave.html Exceptional Leaving and Adjusting Resources site
http://www.bpdresources.com/end.html#Avoiding TIPS: Planning to Leave
http://www.drirene.com/tips1.htm Accepting Personal Responsibility
http://www.coping.org/growth/accept.htm
When they try to crawl back – Steps to Take
http://www.geocities.com/andifekete/worm.html
Abuse Site - Why She Stays
http://www.actabuse.com/whyshestays.html
Why Women Stay in Abusive Relationships
http://www.geocities.com/conscioustar/writing/abusive.html
Barriers to Leaving
http://www.edvp.org/AboutDV/barriers_to_leaving.htm Learned Helplessness
http://www.unfetteredmind.com/articles/helplessness.php
Finances Often Keep Women in Abusive Relationships
http://www.nefe.org/news/news100301.html Letting Go - Inspirational
http://www.enter.net/~forester/lettingo.html Path to a Brighter Future (mentions Borderline PDs, but effective for us too!)
http://www.bpd411.org/brighterfuture.html Tips for a Faster Recovery
http://breakups101.com/feelings.html Breaking Free from Co-dependence
http://www.toddlertime.com/interest/co-dependence.htm Why Does She Stay: by Pam Butler
http://www.feministjournal.com/pam_butler.html
Why Doesn't She Leave?
http://www.womynkind.org/whyno.htm I'm Out, Now What?
http://www.leavingabuse.com/out.html
The Psychology of Torture
http://malignantselflove.tripod.com/torturepsychology.html Leaving Abusive Relationships: A Study of Catalytic FactorsAmy A. Bettencourt
http://www-mcnair.berkeley.edu:16080/97Journal/Bettencourt.html Make full use of all benefits you're entitled to: Some examples: WIC (Women, Infants, Children - food etc.) USDA (US Dept of Agriculture) Food
Stamp Program
Some keyword search terms: battered women financial assistance, aid, housing, legal. 
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